While many of the complaints against the term 'feminism' are based on
lack of knowledge, including lack of awareness of the positive work
and accomplishments associated with feminism, I agree it would be a
good idea to find a term without 'fem' in it in order to better
Ideally, all humans would be equal. In order to get closer to this,
learning more about all humans and the issues that prevent
equality would be the focus.
What does gender neutralism mean? Is it about not making assumptions
in choices of pronouns, is it about referring to job titles without
'man' in them, but replacing with 'person' or something more neutral?
Is it that people would have a lot more choice when it came to roles
At present, I kind of feel like when people communicate with me
online the best I can hope for is to be considered a kind of asexual
Yoda in a dress, although at times I have been seen as psycho, ugly,
old and bitter, someone shrill or boring, and definitely not as smart
or chilled out as Yoda. Is it just me, and that I come across as
kinda psycho? From what I have observed online, regarding other women
in discussions, no. Women's right to an opinion or to qualify as a
sentient human very often seems to depend on their appearance and
age. It sucks.
Is it ok to let friends express misogynist views and not ever try to
challenge their ideas? What about other prejudices? In movies, all
the time and on tv, people are accepting of various prejudices as
part of the package. When people speak about a relationship between
equals, do the same people also seek the same with friends and family
members? And if not, why not? What does it mean to speak up? What
does it mean to remain silent?
I am not really sure how sexist I am, but I have a kind of awareness
of the possibility that I am sexist in ways I don't consciously
My impression is that currently there are many kinds of unacceptable,
unappealing or invisible sexuality. There is much ageism and sexism.
Would gender neutralism lead to more possibilities, a less restricted
view of what sexuality is?
When people are reluctant to talk politics, it could be partly about
respecting other people's beliefs and not making a scene, but it's
also because there is a kind of intimidation factor. People who know
things about politics are often very passionate and vocal, and there
is a sense of 'I'm stupid, I should know this but I don't' in
listening to some of them, which makes it even harder sometimes to
address what you don't know, or where to start.
In my family, I definitely got the idea my parents supported Pierre
Elliott Trudeau, but was that mainly because he was charming and
cultured and had a cool wife who smoked pot with the Rolling Stones?
Or was it because Trudeau was involved when on May 14 1969
therapeutic abortion became available for women whose physical or
mental wellbeing was at stake in carrying a pregnancy to term? And
what this meant was that of four children, they only really had a
choice with the fourth? I was born 7 months after my parents
married.. If the law had been passed earlier, what would my parents'
lives have been like? Would I have been born at all?
What did my parents absorb about Trudeau? Mainly the 'cool' messages?
They did not really speak about politics, and we all absorbed it was
best not to pry into some things. There was never really much
discussion at family gatherings. GK's father was a journalist, and he
probably inherited some of his parents' political views. Ideas were
inherited, yes, but also it was part of normal conversation to be
acquainted with current events in Australia and the world, and the
house itself was packed to bursting with a wide range of
When it comes to talking about politics, for most of my life I didn't
really feel I had a good grasp of the issues. In reality, most people
have opinions on things like abortion, gay marriage, welfare,
disability, immigration, climate change and environmental issues,
etc, but they don't really know how these opinions match up to
political parties or if they fit various isms. For those who grow up
with a certain background, this seems ridiculous, and they are
impatient with those who do not understand how it all works. Does
this mean the school systems fail in teaching kids about how the
political systems in their own countries work? Does it mean that the
approach to education on these matters needs some work? Or that more
countries should have a policy of offering free higher
Anyway.. I think that in living with GK for a long time, I slowly
started to absorb a little more of how things are connected to
politics, but it's difficult when you have no experience discussing
certain topics and others have a whole lifetime of it. So when it
comes to people who feel intimidated by politics, and the serious
emotions and passions that result, the thing to remember is that once
you pick up a certain amount, from there it's not as difficult to
keep extending from that foundation, but at the start, the main
problem is not really that a person doesn't have opinions on
politics, it's that the person might not know the right jargon to
express those opinions in the presence of those who are more
I just want to note something that relates to
feminism: I read an article saying that most Australian women don't
identify as feminist, but that they believe in equality.. that for
them, feminism is too 'strong' a word. But that's not the place I'm
coming from. I don't have a problem calling myself feminist, and I
don't think it's good to just throw the word away without an
acknowlegement of the history and accomplishments, and what it really
means as opposed to some of the pop culture interpretations, or that
the movement is dead and there is no more work to be done. At the
same time, I think the next wave probably should be labelled
differently, because with a 'feminine' reference in the title, it
seems less equal. Yes, I know men can be feminists. Maybe it should
be femenist (but not FeMEnist).
->exile on meme st: a diary